I never really imagined myself having a little girl… family relationships in my life have been – well messy. I am sure most people can say that to some degree. But I always looked longingly at the Mother-Son relationships. I guess its because it was something foreign to any of my experience. I was scared of the thought of a daughter, my insecurities attacked my heart anytime I got close to it. If I never had a daughter, I would never have to bear the fear of the generational pattern on my shoulders. I was terrified when we heard those three words at your first ultrasound. It’s a girl. In that instant everything changed.
But weeks went by and I started to let myself get excited, I dared to let myself dream..
of the life,
the relationship that we could have.
And then you came.
This ray of constant sunshine. You have taken me by surprise, in every way.
Only 6 months in and I feel like your personality and soul are so evident already. You and your brother have been like breathing fresh air for the first time. Everything I never knew I needed, and somehow like you have always been with me.
Growing up female isn’t the easiest though sweets, life can get hard, and we go through a lot;
We battle gender stereotyping on the daily and go through big changes throughout our lives. Physically, emotionally, in every way really.
I want to keep your life sheltered, I want to hide you away from the world like Rapunzel in a tower because I see your innocent loving smile, your sunny disposition and it both terrifies and breaks my heart that it will be tested, cracked and tried in this life.
But the world needs you. You will be strong, it won’t break you, you will only make it a better place.
So I won’t hide you away, but I will stand beside you. Champion you, always cheerleading from the sidelines. Always.
So my dear as you go into this life, this is what I want you to know and remember,
You are PERFECT just the way you are
Who you are is amazing. Your personality. Your body is amazing, it will do amazing things. It will change, it will age. Respect it, embrace it, its a temple and fearfully and wonderfully made. Ignore anything or anyone who tells you otherwise.
Never Let Numbers Define You
Whether you are first or last place. No matter what the scale says. No matter how much or little you make. Whether some guy thinks your a 3 or a 10. You are not a number. Never let it define you.
Always keep learning
Don’t let yourself fall into a place of comfort! Keep searching, keep learning! There is so much to know, to understand and to enjoy! You have the world at your fingertips!
Kindness. There is never enough of it but its free to give. Let it flow out of you continually. Be a fountain of kindness.
Trust is Earned and Sacred
Mankind is so tricky. I want you to embrace people, and see the good, to see the bright side but I want you to guard your heart but don’t hold grudges. Grudges are like poison, they kill from the soul – out. Forgive and let go, but keep the necessary boundaries.
Fear is not meant to hold you back, its meant to be Overcome
If you have a dream, something so big it seems impossible, or scares you, its worth chasing after my dear. You have been given gifts and passions, hone those gifts, chase the things your passionate about.
Success doesn’t come easy
Nothing comes easy. You are going to have to work hard to get to where you want to go. There is beauty in that journey. There are lessons in the grunt work. In the menial tasks. Build stamina, build work ethic, but always keep sight of your worth.
Love All People
We are all made in Gods image. Love does not mean always agreeing, or seeing things the same, but we love because Christ first loved us. We all fall short.
We are always here and will ALWAYS love you.
No explanation needed.
I am excited to watch you soar, to grow, to become yourself more everyday.
You are my beautiful surprise and I pray that our relationship would grow with every passing day, that we will build a mutual trust and true friendship. I love you my flower girl.
Photos by Julie Christine Photography