Guest Mama Blogger 2018 Day 2
KEISHA OF LOVING LITTLES BLOG
This little mamas one of my first blogging friends, we met because she contacted me for a ride to an event and I knew basically nobody so I was in, and we have been friends ever since! She is spunky, and real and just so much fun to be around. She loves her kids with all she’s got and they are such a sweet family. Her and Her Husband are from the East coast of Canada and live here in the West! Today she shares a bit about how that transition has been for her, especially while raising a family. Hope you enjoy and are encouraged!
Raising Kids Across The Country, Away From Family
It’s really hard for me to write about what it’s like living so far away from our family. I guess I like to keep it bottled inside or really don’t know how to express it in a way that I really want to. No one enjoys living away from family especially when growing up that’s all they had and known. For Drew and I it’s a decision we made really young. We both met in high school in our home province of Nova Scotia and since graduating we both moved across country basically for work. Good paying jobs and being able to grow.
Of course when your young you think you know it all and really don’t think far into the future, like kids, marriage a house, things like that. We managed to survive many years with little in our pocket, no family in sight and hardly any friends. Just the two of us, we became each other’s best friends and that was enough for us. Until the day we found out we were pregnant with Owen, our first little baby. He was such a joy to grow and the day he came to us earth side we knew right there and then that we were a family. It was the best feeling in the world but still so bittersweet.
We missed our family more than ever at that moment. Though we got through it with a lot of phone calls and a couple visits back to Nova Scotia. Owen has grown up familiar with that long flight back and forth just to visit everyone back east. He enjoys it now and is almost at the point of being able to fly home alone to spend Summers there…
Years pass after having Owen and once we felt like we had most of our ducks in a row we had our little daughter Ella. Having her was something that made me feel more alive than ever knowing that Drew and I had these two precious babies. It ‘s become even harder living away from the people who mean most to us, for the time being we make due and have come to terms with it. But celebrations get lonely, special occasions, the date nights or trips away where grandparents help out doesn’t happen, the cost of flying is expensive, the kids are getting older. We are always weighing the outcomes of this for our family and to be honest we really don’t know the right answer right now.
Now in my 30’s I realize more than ever just how important having family around us is, if not for us than for the kids. The days are long but years are short. Everyone around us is becoming older and it’s harder with each passing day. We take appreciation for the little things. Like when friends offer to babysit or someone makes us a nice meal. Or when someone treats us like family in a way families should. I thank goodness for technology, facetime, calling and texting. The distance has almost in some weird way brought us closer.
I always have lingering guilt but at the end of the day Drew and I are planning for our future and our children’s future. Drew’s career is just too worth it and beneficial for our family long term. Owen and Ella understand and even though they miss them so much they always have them on their mind and we are always talking about our hometown or loved ones. We are constantly reminding them of where they are really from.
One day we will move back to Nova Scotia it’s only a matter of time.
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